Outgrowing People

Have you ever felt like, "I've outgrown them," or "I'm moving on because I'm bored," or, "I don't agree with them at all anymore, this is weird!"

Outgrowing people in your life can feel uncomfortable, believe me, I've been there.

Have you ever thought of it as your energetic frequency is getting higher and it's just not matching theirs any longer? 

It happens to us throughout our lifetime and here is why. For some of us Spiritual folk we learn this quickly, for others it may take much longer. We gain a deep insight on who we want to be around and who we want to spend our energy on, or with, based on the way we feel when we are interacting with them. 

Some people drain us, so, so badly. They just take and take and take from us without any reprieve. It's awful I know, and have known quite a few people like this and it is completely mentally and physically exhausting. They are called psychic vampires. They aren't "psychic" per say, but it is connected to energy and that is where the word 'psychic' comes into play. These people just suck all of your energy out of you as they talk about themselves, dump all of their problems on you, ask you how to "fix" something in their life, they don't allow room for you to talk, make you feel guilty by not attending their parties or gatherings and then leave you as they move onto the next....it's ridiculous.

These are people who just dominate the energy of the relationship and for spiritual people it's too much. Too much energy coming at us, too much being sucked out of us, too much noise, too much gossip and drama...it's gross honestly. And at a certain point you realize, "I think I've outgrown this person. I don't want to be around them anymore, it's too much." The reason this happens is because you have become more aligned with your frequency, you have leveled up, you have found your higher vibration and it feels different. It feels stronger. You feel more powerful within yourself, energetically and mentally. You have an inner fire where your self worth that has grown into a higher vibration that has decided it doesn't want to engage with those vampires anymore. It feels really good to get to this place!

These psychic vampires are not only friends you've met along the way, but they can also be family members, and that can be an uncomfortable place to be. You can either jump ship and create strong boundaries with them by cutting ties with them all together to save your wellbeing and nervous system, or you can create your own personal boundaries which limit the amount of time you spend with them. 

The way we know we have outgrown someone is how you all of a sudden "see" them. You "see" them in a new way. It's when you say to yourself, "Gosh, I do not agree with what they are doing or saying any longer, I can't believe how clearly I am seeing this and them now." You have energetically grown, you have leveled up in your frequency, and you can see through their misalignments. 

Also, you may "see" someone you've been close to for your whole life or for many years and all of a sudden you see them through a new set of eyes. You notice they are small minded or stuck in a box and are too scared to find their way out of it. But you have expanded your energy and you are moving forward in this life and are not stuck in a frequency that doesn't align with theirs anymore. 

We don't need to  people please for any reason, or for any person, ever. If something doesn't vibe with you, then its ok to say, "no." Saying "no" is a form of self care. The world won't end if you say "no" to someone, and honestly, if they are an aligned friend or family member, they will respect it and not give you a hard time about it. 

So many of us are entering into a new phase of energy and alignment. Alignment to me means you are truly in the flow of your energy, you know what you want, you connect and value your personal energy and space and you can physically see/feel who you want to be in your circle. It also means you put your needs first when it comes to your nervous system and anxiety. The more we are attuned to how we want to live our lives and who we surround ourselves with, the more grounded and connected we will be with the energies of the earth and the cosmos.

We outgrow people and it's ok, it's all part of our growth, integration of learning, and clearly seeing where we are going in this journey of life. Everything we experience are great lessons which teach us who and what we want to spend our energy on, and to continue to stay well balanced and healthy both spiritually and mentally. 

Remember who you are.

Remember how valuable your energy is.

Remember your worth.

Remember you are here to fully live your best life, don't let someone else take that from you.

Peace & Magic,

- Kim 

kimnicholls.com

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